A few weeks ago I applied for a job that I was convinced I wanted. I got invited to come in for an interview. The interview went well, as most of them have in my life. I connected professionally and personally with each of the three who conducted the interview. As soon as the interview wrapped up, I walked out of the building where the interview was held and wrote three hand-written thank-you notes to each of the three people who interviewed me.
The next day, I went to see my therapist. I’ve thankfully had a therapist most of my adult life. Having someone to help me sort out the crazy past I’ve survived and the ways my past rears its head and interferes with my present day life is exponentially valuable. She helps me stay grounded and remember I am whole. I told the therapist about the job interview and that now I waited to see if they would ask me for a second interview. My therapist asked me, “You don’t sound very enthusiastic about this job. Are you?”
That caused me to pause. I tuned into the wisdom of my body. My body was on edge, holding, a bit clenched up. I realized my Intellect thought it was essential for me to have a “regular” job, one with a consistent, reliable paycheck. My Body, my Emotions, and my Spirit were not in full agreement with my Intellect. There was more to the picture than I was allowing myself to see.
A few days later, I got an email telling me that I had done a great job in the interview, and that they were impressed with my qualifications, but (the infamous BIG BUT!) they were not asking me for a second interview. My first reaction was to cry and feel a big stab of disappointment. I heard Stan Grof in my mind, coaching me to “really cry, cry hard.” So I did. Then all of a sudden I started laughing!
A surge of relief filled my entire being! I felt my Intellect turn to my Body, Emotions and Spirit and bow. The external world of my Intellect wanted the security of steady employment. People in my life feel relief when I have the illusion of steady income. I took a deep breath, and reminded myself that I will be okay. That I AM okay.
I wrote an email to 8 of my best female pals. Two of them called me immediately. The other six reached out to me over the next day. Each of them reminded and reflected back to me my truth. It was okay to let that job go. It’s meant for someone else. It’s not what I am here to contribute.
I then took my beautiful dog Echo for a walk by the Mississippi River. As we approached the river, I saw two bald eagles sitting on a rock. I was astonished to see them. It’s not unusual to see eagles near the river, but to see them so close! It felt like a direct message from the Universe to me.
When I got home, I looked up Eagle in my Medicine Cards. I found a photo from when I was about 2 years old in the book! The book said, “Eagle medicine is the power of the Great Spirit, the connection to the Divine. It is the ability to live in the realm of spirit, and yet remain connected within the realm of Earth.”
A perfect reminder! Things are not always as they seem. It is the season of Thanksgiving. I don’t eat meat, dairy or gluten, so I focus my attention on having gratitude. I am profoundly grateful that Great Spirit keeps looking out for me. I am profoundly grateful for the amazing, generous friends in my life. And, I am grateful that I trust my inner wisdom, even when I get confused.
I wish you all the very best holiday season! May Eagle fly into your life and bless you as you navigate.
Thanks for all your beautiful comments and for all the love. We are indeed all connected!
I can’t believe I just NOW discovered your blog.
This entry resonates with me so much at this point of my career. Every day, I find myself asking the same question. When I’m in doubt, it seems as though the universe hears me and positively answers through my students or through the outcome of my work. It lets me know that my contributions matter and that I am important.
Thank you for this. I needed it.
Barbara,
Thank you for your kind words!! I’m glad you found my blog now! There’s always perfect timing.
And, for reference, you ARE important and your contributions do matter!
Blessings always,
Mari
Mari Ruddy I don’t know why you popped up in my facebook feed – I suspect we might be on a LeanIn site together – but I am so glad you did. I love this story. I love the photos. You’re authentic and inspiring and vibe alive with transcended pain. Blessings to you from Australia – I wish you nothing but love, wellness and joy.
Jacqueline,
Thank you for your kind words! Sending love back to you in Australia from Minnesota, USA!!!
~Mari
Hi Mari, This is beautiful! The Universe was talking to you early on and your viewing of the eagles were your confirmation! I like how you grieved then laughed…true healing! Beautiful article!
Tammy,
You are such a wonderful friend! Thank you for your kind words!! The Universe does talk to us. Another thing I have profound gratitude for.
Blessings your way!
Mari
Disappointments help us redefine what we truly want. If we don’t know exactly what we want then anything will do. You’re not an “anything” woman. Always keep your sights on higher aspirations.
Alex,
Thank you!!! You are so correct, I’ve never been an “anything” woman!
You are wonderful!
~Mari