Becoming an athlete was no easy task for me. In fact, much of how good my life is now has been hard won. I am profoundly grateful that no longer do I believe that everything in life must be difficult to achieve. In fact, I’m noticing that some things can actually be easy!
Last week I talked about how Cliff Ravenscraft invited me and all of us at the last ever Tribe Conference to dream. As happens when we dream, I noticed that a few unhelpful beliefs came up.
Can you relate?
In my case, as I was listing my 50 dreams, I noticed these beliefs coming up:
- You’re not smart, there’s no way you can redesign your website.
- No one will help you with your website.
- You are on your own. No one ever wants to help you.
- You’re not good enough to figure the website out.
These unhelpful beliefs really started to attack me. They are so subtle and so vicious.
To help me reframe and change my unhelpful beliefs, I’ve done a few things in my life. Highlights include attending the Hoffman Process, and doing quite a bit of hypnotherapy. Plus my daily meditation practice for the past 20 years has been very helpful. Additionally, my obsession with positive mantras has helped.
The thing about unhelpful beliefs is that they generally operate at the subconscious level. They are background informers and operators, operating in the dark. Turns out they prefer to operate in the background, out of notice.
Yet, they impact our lives SO much!
Thankfully Cliff gave us a simple 4 part system to change our unhelpful beliefs. Here it is for you too!
4 STEPS to CHANGE YOUR UNHELPFUL BELIEFS
STEP 1: Become aware of the unhelpful beliefs you hold.
They have to become conscious. Essentially, this is the NAME THEM step. I know, ick. That means you have to actually acknowledge that they exist within you. Darn.
STEP 2: Discover the source of the belief.
In my case, this usually means looking at my childhood. Not that I currently blame my parents for instilling so many unhelpful beliefs in me. Thankfully I learned in the Hoffman Process that they got the beliefs from their parents and so on and so on. Plus blame isn’t particularly helpful. The key of this step is to simply identify where the belief came from.
STEP 3: Break up from the belief.
The word Cliff used to describe this step is to “dissociate” from the belief. Which really is to tell the belief it is done, that you fire it/release it/let it go. I do this by saying the unhelpful belief outloud and then talking to it for a moment, thanking it for trying to help me and that now I am ready for a much more helpful, much more positive belief. Then I officially say goodbye. It’s magical what happens when I do this.
Yes, I did this often when I was working hard at believing that I was an athlete! And it worked!!!
STEP 4: Condition a new empowering alternative belief.
This is where my obsession with mantras comes in handy! I purchase the Louise Hay Daily Calendar every year since every day there is a lovely affirmative mantra.
Cliff told us about an app called ThinkUp. This app allows you to easily record your own voice saying positive affirmations set to music. I got it immediately. In fact, I realized very quickly I needed the premium version. That version costs $39.99 per year. In my budget mindedness, it’s worth every penny!
I’ve owned it for about 2 weeks now and I have listened to it every single day. At the moment I have 20 affirmations in my ALL loop! I encourage you to try it out. The free version is good, just only 3 affirmations allowed.
There you go! I wish us all the very best as we continue to notice and become aware of our unhelpful beliefs and then work to change them. Our health is worth it!!
Blessings to us all as we transform ourselves!